An Open Letter to Young Tamil Men

female sexuality

Dear Young Tamil Men,

 

Remember this conversation?

 

“So what do you think of her?” says one young Tamil man to another.

 

“She’s banging. But yo, I don’t think she’s the type you’d want to marry,” his friend replies.

 

“What do you mean? You heard something bad about her?” The young Tamil man presses his friend anxiously but dreads hearing more.

 

“Well, how do I put this lightly? Let’s just say she’s been around. Her ex told me some messed up things about her. I would stay away from that girl if I were you.”

 

The young Tamil man is downcast yet relieved. “Is it just me or are a lot of Tamil girls sluts nowadays? There are like no decent girls left.”

 

“Word,” says his friend as they shake their head in derision and disgust while they repeat the process, this time with another female target in mind.

 

Are you surprised by this conversation? Shocked? You shouldn’t be because this is a conversation that occurs frequently within the Tamil community.

 

Don’t get me wrong. I am not solely targeting Tamils. In fact, this conversation could be applied to any society that places a strong emphasis on female chastity. Yet regardless of the culture, this is a conversation that should not be happening. Especially not in this day and age. (And to add as a disclaimer, I have no problems with women who choose not to be sexually active. That is their choice. What I do have a problem with are people – men or women – who assess someone’s character solely by their virginity or lack thereof.)

 

There seems to be a flawed assumption somewhere in the depths of our patriarchal culture that the ideal woman should be angelic and innocent, blushing at the mere mention of words like “sex” or “penis”. Sometimes, when my anger doesn’t blind me, I kind of empathize with you.

 

 

Some of you grew up hearing stories from the epic Ramayana and learning of the modest, angelic Sita. You probably sat there thinking, “Of course, one day I will marry a Sita. A Sita who will constantly prove her chastity to me and the world by jumping into a fire whenever doubts were cast upon her character.”

 

As if this wasn’t enough, the Tamil movies you grew up watching added to the damage. You were constantly bombarded by meaningless plots that depicted a meek, beautiful Barbie doll who emulated Sita. On the other hand, it was the villainess of the movie who oozed sexiness and lust that was at once appreciated in the form of an erection yet hated for being “slutty”.

 

 

I’m sure you whistled with all your might when Rajnikanth famously differentiated the three types of women in the hit film Padaiyappa. In his opinion, the three types of women were the type you revere like a goddess, the type you want to have sex with, and the type you’re in mortal fear of. Of course, the character Padaiyappa chooses the homely and innocent Soundarya while defacing the strong sex appeal exuding Neelambari, a decision you probably applauded.

 

In these narratives, you were accustomed to seeing depicted women as polarized figures – either modest and righteous or sexually active and evil. Well, did it ever occur to you that women – even Tamil women – can be both righteous and sexually active? It probably didn’t because the idea of sexual purity has become the measuring stick for assessing good character in Tamil women.

 

 

Yet this is not the case for Tamil men. Let’s be honest – Tamil men get to have full sexual freedom when it comes to dating and hook-ups. And we Tamil women are expected to complacently accept your indiscretions as if it were your right as men to explore and enjoy life, and as if questioning this right is blasphemous.

 

Let me tell you something that may boggle your mind. Tamil men – you may have to sit down for this one. But we Tamil women get horny too. Contrary to popular belief, we have sexual urges as well. Just as you experience complete sexual liberation, we wish to have the same without being judged and ridiculed as “not marriage material”. We are not objects to be judged as “easy” or “used” and are disgusted that you would even use these terms to describe us.

 

Along with this, not all of us believe in the idea of marrying the first guy we date. And just like you, some of us want adventure and fun in our teens and twenties. Stop putting us on a pedestal and comparing us to an ideal that is not only completely unnatural, but boring.

 

 

And while you’re at it, please erase this barbaric idea that being modest is the only way to be righteous. There are many sexually promiscuous women who are also intelligent, charitable, kind, empathetic and many other positive traits. The choice to be sexually promiscuous or chaste should not be central in defining a woman. So instead of putting virgin on the top of your checklist when assessing a woman, try putting qualities such as intelligence or independence and see where it will take you.

 

Hoping for a change,
Young Tamil Women

 

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The views expressed in this article are those of the author and do not necessarily reflect TamilCulture’s editorial policy.

 

For an alternative perspective, check out: “The Voices of Feminist Tamilachis”.

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Niveda Anandan

Niveda Anandan

Niveda Anandan is in her final year of a Bachelor of Science degree in Integrative Biology, English literature, and Psychology at the University of Toronto. She is a writer at Tamil Feminist and is passionate about issues pertaining to gender inequality. You can follow other articles with related themes at http://kumukam.com/tamilfeminist/.

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mrtamil_to
mrtamil_to

Guys. Pump and dump this girl. The hamstering is strong in this misandric girl.

mrtamil_to
mrtamil_to

http://www.quora.com/Pick-Up-Artists/What-does-hamster-or-hamsterization-mean-in-Game-PUA-terminology:

The rationalization hamster is an analogy for the thought processes used by women to turn bad behavior and bad decisions into acceptable ones to herself and her friends. When a woman makes a bad decision, the hamster spins in its wheel (the woman’s thinking) and creates some type of acceptable reasons for that bad decision. The crazier the decision, the faster the hamster must spin in order to successfully rationalize away the insanity

I simply can't offer better examples than The Private Man's post does, so I encourage you to read it for more examples. Here are a couple of the most common:

Bad Decision:

“I’m going out and getting drunk with my friends.”

Resulting Consequences:

Drunken and unsatisfactory hookup sex with a stranger.

Hamster Processing Result:

“I was drunk and he took advantage of me or maybe even raped me! Maybe it was a date rape drug!”

Final Result:

“It’s not my fault.”

The emphasis in this example being that the sex was in fact consensual (although alcohol was involved), but the woman justifies it (rationalises it... with her hamster) to get over the guilt associated with making a bad decision.

Bad Decision:

“I deserve only the most attractive and successful man despite the fact that I don’t have much to offer in the context of dating and relationships.”

Resulting Consequences:

Can’t find any man for dating or a relationship or only has one-night stands.

Hamster Processing Result:

“There are no good men” or “Men suck”

Final Result:

“It’s not my fault.”

Viewed within the context of the Red Pill, the Rationalisation Hamster can be recognised in many places.

raj_s
raj_s


An open letter to Radical Feminists

The self-proclaimed feminist writer purports, rather presumptuously to speak on behalf of all sexually repressed Tamil women. The writer's fatwa against patriarchal control of women's sexuality exhorts women to lead a promiscuous life without any concern for Tamil cultural propriety or mores. The idea is paradigm shifting with regards to Tamil culture and mores. The writer is hoping to recreate the zeitgeist of the 1960's Americana -pot smoking, free love, Hippie movement- for Tamils and Tamil culture. One must question the logic behind such a tectonic shift in thought. I feel the argument for this as presented by the writer was rather weak and self-defeating. The lifestyle as espoused by the writer only hastens a denouement that will hurt the very women it wants to liberate. While it seems the writer is from a Tamil background, it is blatantly obvious that the writer is lacking insight into Tamil cultural mores. Her "Tamil-Men-Hating" piffle was a direct result of a lack of insight into the Tamil cultural mores and customs.

She is what one might call a nominal Tamil or Hindu. It seems patently clear the writer is confused about her identity. While I am no clinical psychologist, it would appear the writer is suffering from a rather bad case of "Identity crisis" possibly made worse by deep seated emotional issues such as "repressed sexuality" and "nymphomania". A slew of such repressed emotional issues in the writer have metastasized into a severe case of misandry.  Or perhaps her diatribe was a weak attempt at rationalizing her guilt of spending one too many nights out with the boys, while studying in the university? Or perhaps, an overt act of "anger displacement" to mitigate her feelings of shame and guilt by shifting blame collectively at men. But then again, who knows what goes inside the mind of a sex hungry, sexually repressed Tamil nymphomaniac floozy?

What a spoiled brat! While her sisters in Sri Lanka are suffering from the aftermath of a devastating war she is unperturbedly getting wet thinking about risque encounters with varied men until she decides to marry, if she marries at all! She wants to be caressed by any man she damn well chooses and then expects her future husband to appreciate her for her cranial capacity and conveniently ignore her fickleness! I find it rather disconcerting in this day and age with rampant outbreak in sexually transmitted diseases, our Tamil sister has inflicted this piffle on us. And shame on DBS and TamilCulture for publishing this filth despite their lousy disclaimers.


The synopsis of her rather weakly argued proposition when flayed to the skeleton is: A woman is free to have sex with multiple partners before marriage and this should not be frowned upon. The poor wretch who betroths her should not consider her past indiscretions as impediments to present/future martial bliss and any incipient rankling must be doused by taking into account the wife's giant brain size and slightly adopting "cuckoldish" delight in her past experiences.

Well, I say, the hell with that! I do not care so much about your cerebral capacity as I care about your maternal and uxorial qualities. I could care less if you are verbally gifted, but I would like you to be orally gifted -preferably without any prior experience- and culinarily inclined. If you are looking for unbridled independence with 'Carte Blanche' lifestyle, you would be better off with a sucker white guy or a negro. And I'll say good riddance!

Lest you take me for a callous man, let me state for the record, while I support feminist causes like equal pay for equal work, freedom from harassment, suffrage rights etc. I am against radical feminism. Arguably, the veritable culprit behind many a broken homes and the cause of decline in marriage rates in Western countries. However, what the writer is proposing simply borders on the obscene  - a page straight from the radical feminist manifesto- and to which I am vehemently opposed. It pays to bear in mind that there are certain things that will never change, no matter how hard feminists may try. Each of us must strive to represent the gender roles that nature has bestowed upon us. To act or go against nature is anomalous,is abnormal and is unnatural. Don't be led astray by false ideology and radical feminism.

Here is a simple analogy for you overzealous Tamil feminists to ponder over. A man can walk down a street with his shirt off, bare chested. Can you women do that? Can you do that in front of your Dad? Mom? Brother? I can. You can't. Deal with it.

Ever the gentleman, I am now overcome with a tinge of guilt for this "ad hominem" attack on your person. So as a token of agreeing to disagree, Dear Niveda, if you are still into sleeping around with no strings attached, I am interested. I promise you a good time. Just don't expect me to marry you. I may put a noose around your neck but never a "Thaali Kodi". But don't worry, I'll spare the noose until we are done. I know how ornery you get when you are unsatisfied.


Raj.S


Tamil MAN
Tamil MAN

This bitch really deleted my post. Typical scum feminist behaviour.

Tamil MAN
Tamil MAN

Also men dont care about being called objects, tool etc. Its just sex, why all the fuss if women are called the same?

Tamil MAN
Tamil MAN

On another note. Tamil men along with almost all brown males (indians,pakistanis,caribbean) in the west are pathetic. Not all but most. Most of them all insecure betas no alphas in site. There are no brown "men" only a very few exist. Most will try and fight you if you talk to or even look at their girlfriends who obviously control the relationship. Many of them act like thugs or gangsters to boost self esteem and ego. Go into clubs and you will see brown guys rolling in crews staring at other men. They are all over protective with their gfs and sisters or female cousins for no reason. Even the girls they are friendzoned with, they protect.

dradzi_ubova
dradzi_ubova

Being a virgin nowadays makes you special, it's like being a unicorn' ..

You shouldn't lose your virginity before marriage. partners.Virginity is the most precious gift you can give to another Human being.Nowadays if you aren't carrying and STD or don't have multiple sex partners people think you are a loser..,Virgin girls/guys are so precious


If the western mentality is so forward then why are men in U.K. having sex with dead deers and dogs....Why are divorce rates so high if people fall in love? Why are girls treated as sex toys? Why are people still having sex with animals? Holy ****! Don't teach us what to do, brah. 

We all know how faithful westerners are...


Girls in the U.K are grown just to become a **** or a *****. LOL. Girls lose their virginity at the age of 13 or 14. Funny how they try to protect their lame culture. Half of their children are grown up by one parent, I guess. In Sri Lanka husband is cheater? HAHAHAHAHAHAH! We don't atsk random girls for sex...


And btw, they don't value it that's why divorce rates are high. In U.K, so many married women have been caught having sex with neighbors and some other people. Do you like it? Should we become like that? If yes, then I'm ready, because I'm not an ugly *** person that can't get laid. I'm just holding it for the special one. 

And of course virginity is important to me, I'm a virgin myself. I would love to share it with some girl that actually deserves it. There's a difference between love and lust. Please learn it. Being a guy myself, I would feel guilty if I slept with a girl before marriage. Westerners have a lot to learn from us.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pKSs76LzwSs Just watch this video.


Neeganslk4ever
Neeganslk4ever

@dradzi_ubova

For me sex is a very deep intimate connection, a spiritual meeting, becoming one with someone. I give a lot of importance. Too much to do it casually. I am not after material pleasure or superficial relationship of momentary nature. I want to go deep into love and then have sex with a girl. And when I do I would do whatever to make the relationship work for a long term. I have not found a girl with whom I would like to spend the rest of my life and when I do find her I would like to marry her and then what difference will it make to just wait for the marriage to come.


Tamil culture la olukam mukiyam.has been given a lot of importance in our culture. People influenced by western values seek instant gratification. Will power and self control are alien concept to them. I don't mind how they live their life but for me these things are important. 


Someone who is virgin by choice shows the quality that he has self control, patience, principles and values. I am not saying that those who are not virgin don't have it. But those who are virgin definitely prove that they have these values. For me these values are important.


And I would like to see these very values in my life partner. Someone who has not fallen for the traps of guys, who has not been lured into sex by anyone, who has been able to exercise discretion. 


I must state that virginity signfies a set of values to me and I do not care what the non-virgines do, it is their choice. If I happen to fall for a widow who is not virgin because she has been married but had been before marriage will show me those qualities and I will be ready to marry her.


I am not dogmatic, orthodox or anything but I am just logical believer in principles and values. Not a blind follower of western culture which will hardly teach you any values and principles except blatant capitalism and pleasure driven lifestyle. 

Mind you our culture and tradition is known in the world by its spirituality and values. Of course there are some bad deviations but in its pure form it is highly appreciable. 

Those who preach and advocate pleasure and materialism are blinded by their mind for that. They will find all the arguments and excuses for fulfilling their temptations.


Remember the good things in life are always difficult to do while the bad things are easy. Refraining from sex is difficult while doing it is far easy.

Being honest is difficult, lying is easy and hence forth.

ThamizhanOi
ThamizhanOi

@dradzi_ubova Like you said I don't agree that waiting till marriage is a "backward" idea. Many people I've met who did wait till marriage or were celibate till marriage who have shared their experiences made me realize how severely UNDERMINED & MISUNDERSTOOD the whole concept of sharing your body (plus your mind & soul) with just 1 person. Sex IS deep. There's no point in experiencing sex for sex sake considering some of the consequences including attachment that makes for some serious trauma if the relationship ends.It is part of our culture!

Vithua4
Vithua4

@dradzi_ubova  I would definitely prefer a VIRGIN wife for me because I myself a VIRGIN. I have all rights to think and desire for myself. I don't wanna westernize my mentality. I'm proud of my  Tamil vellalar Culture which teaches us to control your Lust, Anger and Hatred and many other immoral things. 

nathanEelam
nathanEelam

@dradzi_ubova

Because pre marital sex is a vice. It's a very common and broadly accepted vice, but it's a vice nonetheless.

Pre marital causes physical and mental harm, it costs money, it presents social dangers (such as  losing respect and catching std's), it can foster dependence and addiction, and it removes self-control. People do it because they enjoy it, knowing full well that it's not good for them. Such is more or less the definition of a vice.

Refraining from vices is generally accepted as a sign of good character.  Just like refraining from smoking, gambling, junk food and reality TV are signs of the same thing. You think of such a person as someone who puts aside things that may be fun in favor of being wise and responsible. It's hard not to respect them.


dradzi_ubova
dradzi_ubova



There are still a huge number of us who value the sanctity of marriage. I wonder what meaning marriage holds for people who already had sex before tying the knot. Seriously !! . I speak for myself and at least 90% of my friends. And yeah we have had a lot of chances if you know what I mean. The argument that guys who are virgins are those who didn't get any chance is stupid....


Being a virgin nowadays makes you special, it's like being a unicorn' ..

You shouldn't lose your virginity before marriage. partners.Virginity is the most precious gift you can give to another Human being.Nowadays if you aren't carrying and STD or don't have multiple sex partners people think you are a loser..,Virgin girls/guys are so precious


It's our culture to save ourselves for our husband/wives 

The majority of hindu women same to keep their virginities 


My sisters are very beautiful and attractive. They are all still virgins 


i'm proud of all asian people who migrate but try their best to preserve their culture... and not imitate americans or british etc 


I am very proud of my sisters... that they are decent, respectable... and they keep their chastity and purity until they have their husbands. 


Do you think i would feel good if my sisters married a man who is unclean ? Who gave himself to other women before marriage ? 


Tamils are morally scrupulous, save themselves for marriage, understand the proper relation between men and women, understand courtship practices, and participate in arranged marriages. Western people, conversely, just sleep around, get married and divorced - in short they don't take relationships seriously. So there is this perception that may have need to be negotiated.


The best thing about Tamil culture is that both men and women preserve themselves and stay virgins for their future partner.. whom they are yet to meet...and probably years after. They lose virginity to their partner only and stay together forever. Remaining virgin is a choice. A choice made to show the ultimate love and respect for their future partner... regardless of how he/she looks, does, where they come from, what they do etc... This is also ultimate self control. If you can control yourself and remain virgin till you get married then you will find it easier to be with the one you are married to. Simple logic. Applied by both men and women. 


For you, sex is just a physical contact which fulfilling your body needs. but for us sex is love. its a bond between the life partners. we want to be special for particular person whoever she may be. 


If virginity is not makes the girl/guy special then what makes the girl special for you? 

if your answer is heart means, are you sure your wife loving you only for entire life after moving for some other.? 


Sex matters... since sex tells you how one can be close enough to a person... having sex with multiple partners / having had sex with multiple partners means thats... One can be close to so many people which disqualifies them for monogamy relationships.


in your point of view even if a girl says to her husband that she had sex before marriage, her husband who has been upholding virtues taught to him should to say to her Its ok?? i think that might not be possible here !!! because we people here are not like westeners !!


'How many Tamil girls have sex before marriage ? 

The answer varies depends on her IQ , if its easy to trick women into having sex then they will have a lot of sex and blame their stupidity on Beta Provider . 


See "Getting used by men is not a cheap mentality" but Marrying a virgin is "Cheap mentality" 

You are suppose to Judge 

see Low IQ leads to lower Impulse Control and sex before marriage , I mean Girls marry at age of 25-30 if she is not a virgin then what does it mean ? she is stupid , she gives away her vagina like that . Stop giving respect to these , and stop asking for their approval. 


People are so obsessed with following Western Culture. With time they are slowly but steadily becoming from bad to worse. The mass acceptance of evil concepts are becoming so ingrained in them that those evils have lost their identity as evils now. The yardstick for gauging good and bad is slowly getting lost till we will reach a point when no bad things will be considered bad and no good things will be praised.


Its not just about virginity.. i think we will have problems regarding their past love affairs even if it didnt result into sex.. its not just about us, nobody would want to hear about their parents sexual adventures either.. when we think about our parents we would feel uncomfortable about their first love, second love or third love..


Same way, if a man has premarital sex, I expect him to be upfront with any girl/woman who is his prospective wife. I do not want a non-virgin man to marry a virgin girl. 


By repeating my words, I hope people get my message drilled into their heads. 


I prefer non-virgins to marry only non-virgins; but once they marry, I want them to be totally monogamous, fully committed to their partners... 100%... until one of them dies. Their colourful pasts should not matter one bit.


I just hate hypocrisy and deceit and I want to see people open, honest and fair with others as well as with themselves.Please be honest with your future husband not many tamils accept use goods.


Most of the Tamil unmarried girls are 30+ and probably were not serious about their virginity when they lost it. Now they have to compete with their much younger counterparts in the marriage market who have the advantage of their virginity. Their only hope now is to make videos like this to underplay the importance of virginity. In most conservative societies virginity is associated with chastity and commitment. Not to say that a non-virgin has a loose character but definitely that person prefers sexual pleasures more than moral commitments and therefore such persons are less likely to stay committed in long relationships such as marriages. Our culture taught us to control our Lust and many other negative things. MAN and WOMEN both should be VIRGIN otherwise they should not get offended when society doesn't accept it.


Sorry but this is the harsh truth


I dont understand why are we Tamis trying to make our society sexually lose, look at west, almost every women there gets raped, single teenage mothers, its completely crumbling, following your desires does not makes you modern or cool.


Tamils do not understand that we are better then west when it comes to culture and family traditions, its actually sad to see the new generation trying to learn **** from west, dont they see whats happening there already? STDs, generations of teen age mothers, illegitimate children, such victims get lured into sex business and drugs...., The west some how seems to be oky with it which is why they dont know their own fathers or family, they end up being psychologically damaged, doing drugs, etc if you wanna practice such untamil bull**** get go where its practiced dont bring that **** here in our culture.

ThamizhanOi
ThamizhanOi

@dradzi_ubova

Sex IS deep but unfortunately a growing number of people look at sex as a requirement or handshake. ��Many people down sex after marriage but it's a statistical FACT that couples who have waited until marriage to have sex and children have the lowest breakup rate and people who don't wait have the highest poverty,std,sti,depression,etc rates yet all of those rates are growing dramatically in the US. There is definitely a correlation.people should pay attention to who they share their bodies with

Neeganslk4ever
Neeganslk4ever

@dradzi_ubova

All those people who say it doesn't matter are those who are the reason for someone to loose it. Now to compensate for their actions they say it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter to you then keep it to yourselves, why are you imposing your thoughts on me. For those people, asking for virginity is sick, but loosing to someone whom they never marry is so fair. Bravo to your hypocrisy. 

Its the same situation now-a-days as was smoking in 60's & 70's. Everyone has a point of view. If you smoke & I don't, then it doesn't mean I am sick for not following your beliefs. 

Virginity is not only something inside the body, it shows the character. If someone is not strong enough to suppress urges before marriage, how can then he/she will be able to do the same after marriage, when continuous sex with the partner makes it addictive. Who knows when you go on for some tour, your husband or wife makes out with someone else.


dradzi_ubova
dradzi_ubova

@Neeganslk4ever


like you said it  should not be, but it is. There are many hypocrites, who had sex with their partner, but didn't marry, just to try another one. Every girl who isn't virgin will be offended. And the worst part is you cannot know it even if the girl tells you that she didn't have any pre-marital sex.

And you also have those guys calling you narrow-minded for not marrying the girl they slept with

Seriously, those open-minded guys, if you are so open-minded, why don't you marry prostitutes. You would be doing good to the society .Yeah, prostitutes would be better than those kind of girls, at-least they had a reason, thats to support their family. But what about you girls, you did it to have fun. Couples in my college used to have sex quite often, but didn't marry afterwards. And the best part is they are still in touch with each other, even though they are married to different people. I suppose what they would be doing in the absence of their spouse.  


And all-those open minded , modern hypocrites, please stop imposing your thoughts on someone not like you. You are a free citizen, so are others. 

Pandit
Pandit

The reality is most Tamil guys can't get laid. Tamil guys slut shame Tamil girls, so they have active sex lives with white and black dudes (who won't judge them for it, but won't marry them either) while not putting out for Tamil guys. And most non-Tamil women aren't attracted to Tamil men. This is why we have so many Tamil male virgins (and not by choice). It's an embarrassment.

Would a Tamil guy who's had sex with multiple girls really care if his wife is not a virgin? No.

Most of the anger and frustration comes from virgin Tamil guys who want sex but have been unsuccessful at it, and so turn around and play the "purity/chastity" card demanding a virgin wife. Trust me, these virgin Tamil guys are no saints either.

rajah2000
rajah2000

@Pandit You are a Pandit? You must be what they call  "Kala Samiyar"

rajah2000
rajah2000

Our parents and grandparents, more precisely our ancestors, did not have the contraceptives used today that allowed for promiscuous sex without pregnancy and STDs. So its not like they were getting laid all the time freely and without thought of consequences. (Contraceptives used by girls today that mess up their hormones to stop pregnancy are leading causes of issues in women and babies born today.) Moreover, they stuck to one partner all their lives unlike today where multiple partners and divorce is rampant, one clearly being the result of the other. Back in the day, living life in rural villages was hard work - rewarding and refreshing being with nature, unlike today, but it was hard work, surviving itself was most of life. So sex was not on the top of the minds of everyone like today's youth. Sex was mostly used to procreate for the survival of race/species, just as nature intended it to be. And there were many 30-year-old virgins during their time - the number of monks/Sanyasis back in the day far outnumber those of today. Your use of the name "Pandit" to identify yourself who has half-baked and half-brained knowledge is laughable at best.

rajah2000
rajah2000

@Johnrambo33 @Vijayan_09 @Pandit I think Johnrambo is an an anti-tamil troll trying to drive a wedge and bring a bad name to Lankan tamils. By the way, the "moved into Sri-Lanka" is not proven as yet. Today, you can walk in knee-deep water from TamilNadu to Sri-Lanka. Whenever the first tamils appeared on either side of the Palk-Strait, it would be hard to imagine that they didn't walk over - this way, or that.

Johnrambo33
Johnrambo33

@Pandit Well kid, generally in South Asian communities in diaspora, its pretty much the fate. Western society has demonised South Asian men. When was the last time have you seen a brown guy in a serious role? Media plays a huge role in dating. You don't see many  black women dating white guys. Why is it so? Because hollywood continue to portray white women dating black guys not vice versa.

South Asians are either nerdy doctors or Cab drivers.High status south asian guys generally marry outside of race, the others don't have a choice. LOL.


Anyway its easier for a girl to get laid than a guy in any ethnic group. For a guy, sex is better than M***ba**on that night, so any girl does fine.Don't need to choose. For a girl, his social status, physique, sense of humour, qualification and etc matters. She isn't gonna sleep with anyone. 



Pandit
Pandit

If you are a Tamil guy who grew up in Canada/US/UK/Australia etc, there's no reason for you to be a virgin past age 25. Hit the gym and learn to socialize with non-Tamil/non-brown women who are more likely to put out.

Unfortunately many young Tamil guys - even guys born in the West - only have Tamil friends and don't know how to talk to girls of other ethnicities. Many of these guys are forever alone, and the guys who manage to land a girl are stuck in sexless relationships with Tamil girls because you've slut-shamed them into not putting out.

Tamil guys who are truly sexless should get an arranged marriage by age 25 (though she may not be a virgin, deal with it).

Our parents and grandparents were getting married in their teens and early 20s and getting laid regularly - no 30 year old virgins in their time.

Sadly, there are more sexually frustrated adult Tamil virgins today than at any time in our history as evidenced by all the angry male commenters here. The only solution is for Tamil dudes to stop slut shaming and step up your game.

Vijayan_09
Vijayan_09

@Johnrambo33 @Pandit this article is not about south asians, its about Lankans who from Lemuria not South asia. south asia compromises india, pakistan, bangladesh not Lanka.

Vijayan_09
Vijayan_09

@Johnrambo33 @Vijayan_09 @Pandit why the nervous laugh? Is it because you're that stupid you can't back up your nonsense? A clown can't back up his claims like yourself. Why don't you actually disprove the video I have put up. How can Lankans who have nicer features than you featureless, dark skinned, eyes sticking out of year head madrassis come from India? Just explain how the Tamil language can come from Lanka yet Lankans come from India? Pathetic madrassi with no language, are you sniffing Lankan arse and following Lankans around to know that Tamils are inter-marrying everyone? Lol such an inferiority complex. Have you got statistics. The last race anyone would intermarry with is you dark skinned featureless madrassis and Lankans would certainly not intermarry with you people.

Vijayan_09
Vijayan_09

@rajah2000 @Johnrambo33 @Vijayan_09 @Pandit

watch the video I put a link of. Knee deep water? ha ha why don't you walk across it, I dare you to, then when the sharks gobble you up, see how u walk over. So the north africans who can actually walk over to subsaharan africa created the Black Africans? lol and u think people who can't walk across land in Africa, can now walk across water. talk of something u know about. Yes John rambo is a madrassi coming here as he is getting beaten up by Indians, cos most Indians do not like these madrassis.

Johnrambo33
Johnrambo33

@Vijayan_09 @Johnrambo33 @Pandit LOL Vijayan! You are a clown. The "tamils" as you claim are either  from tamilnadu or part of kerala. You moved into Srilanka. Whatever it is, your "tamils" are inter-marrying everyone too. So stop being a neanderthal 

ThamizhanOi
ThamizhanOi

@Pandit LADIES PLEASE DONT LISTEN TO HER ADVICE. The Lord tells us to wait until marriage. This type of advise is what leads to so many women being broken hearted after a breakup with a man that she has had sex with. Then moving on, dating another man,having sex with him, breaking up, and continuing the same cycle. Wait on God to send you your spouse! No offense to Pandit but she did not create you, she does not know or love you. God created you,knows you and loves you, and He wants to protect you from that heart break and pain of sex outside of marriage. Yes sex is a beautiful thing that God himself created for a HUSBAND AND WIFE. Save your body for the man that commits his life to you ❤. I would rather DIE A VIRGIN and then have give my body to some LITTLE BOYFRIEND. 

vana9
vana9

@Amanda94 I'm a regular TC reader and have been one for the past few years. They're not a Sri Lanka focused publication but a Tamil focused one. There are over 70 million Tamils around the world and only about 3-4 million are actually from Sri Lanka. I don't think they're trying to cause divide as you seem to think but rather provide niche content for a group of people with similar lifestyle and entertainment interests.

NandagopanJeyasundra
NandagopanJeyasundra

If you guys look at the rest of the world, we are far behind than any other countries apart from these type of life, we might all know that Tamil language were the first language formed in the world than any other language spoken these days, but we all have not fully grown inside neither of done anything that world to be proud of it. Western countries & We all are happy to accept the fact that Kama Sutra was introduced by Hinduism also happy & proud to be accept that we invented something that people like and use on a daily basis. But if you compare Western native females with rest of the world, Tamil female are far amateurish and in most case their are wannabes. 

rajah2000
rajah2000

@NandagopanJeyasundra Do you know that the Kama Sutra identifies and defines what a "Virtuous Woman" is in a whole chapter dedicated to that subject and defines such a woman to be chaste before marriage and only has sexual relations with her husband? Better read up on the actual work before commenting on it based on half-baked western snippets on the subject.

Vithua4
Vithua4

@NandagopanJeyasundra

People like you are the diseases of this country. tell me bro. what is your point ... if a male do multiple sex before marrage is it good? If not then why you are allowing girls for doing the same? why making it easy for them in front of society? Good & Evil is in everywhere. In males in females. the way males can harm innocent girls you think evil minded woman can't harm a loyal honest /good person? making sex free for woman ... you have any idea what it means? 

If a male can dominate by their physical strength... How a Woman will Dominate? they are strong enough physically....

Ans is sexuality. Where mens are weak. If you are a bit mature you will understand. And how dangerous it can be... 

Media alwz work to protect woman from mens & their mental/physical domination ... But you ever saw media focusing on woman's true evil nature? you think they don't dominate ? or abuse male ? bt whenever you'll open a media network they alwz portray woman as a weak figure and symbolize sexuality. lol .. you sick ppl make media run like this with pointless stupid stuff ... 

stop watching films or get lost in darkness... you have no relation with reality .... Don't argue with ppl who understand society ...

poornima16
poornima16

solution is simple: don't marry a misogynistic, mother-worshipping Tamil man! I would never consider such narrow minded scum. I'm a NRI studying to be a scientist, so I uphold the values I believe in like education and reverence for tradition, but I am sexually liberated and very free thinking as well. Luckily white guys appreciate both my opinionated, curious nature and my sexual prowess. 

Johnrambo33
Johnrambo33

@poornima16 So Miss NRI, if the white guys who "appreciate" your sexual prowess, boasted about their exotic brown girl fun in some country bar, would you turn around and become a lesbian?



Sincerely,


A Misogynistic, mother-worshipping narrow minded scum.



poornima16
poornima16

why would it bother me when i talk to my friends about my exotic white fun? p.s. i am bisexual so yes I would date women irregardless

Johnrambo33
Johnrambo33

@poornima16 No sweet heart, the conversation is about your attitude. Just because some tamil guys broke your heart, you assume all tamil guys are jerks and now go for cool white dudes. So if white guys broke your heart, whom will you go to? Aliens?



 Settling down is a chore for any guy. Banging around is good fun.  Just saying.

Not like I am a huge fan of either south asian or western culture. Both has it flaws.

poornima16
poornima16

I am not trying to imply all tamils have this attitude, I am tamil after all. I specified that I would never date a *misogynistic* tamil man, like the great many responding in these comments. It would actually be my dream to meet an educated, liberal tamil man but I've simply never come across one!

Johnrambo33
Johnrambo33

@poornima16 Its also my dream to meet a tamil girl without much drama, a tamil girl who settle for love and not for security because her dad say so. I have never come across one either. LOL

Photonique
Photonique

Very nice article to put it out there. Great job, and I hope we see relevant commentary.


ArulDhina
ArulDhina

if love leads to sex....its k....

but love for sex no my dear.....

then u will always be called as slut ... 

something else also

ChiragShah1
ChiragShah1

@ArulDhina  oh so you would agree that if a man just has sex just for sex then he must be a slut to right? The point is WHY is it ok for a man but NOT OK for a woman....That's the double standard. If you were smart and understood science/biology, you would realize that EVERYONE has sexual urges. Both MEN and WOMEN!

GautamMohan
GautamMohan

I couldn't believe there were so many racist misogynist scumbags in India until I read the comments below.

terlyndo1011
terlyndo1011

I really dont understand what it is that you want tamil men to change?? Do you want them to say or believe that sleeping around is alright?? well lemme tell you how tamil men are where I come from.  Most of my friends including me dont give a rats ass as to how many guys our girls slept with before we met them. But we do give a shit about what happens after we commit. And about stereotyping women as sluts or bitches....well I've got some info for you. Every cluture around the world has words like these for women. If you cannot live with the fact that a woman who sleeps around is a slut.....well all I can say is you are just fishing for a better word to describe sluts. I wanna underline this............a woman who has a few relationships (serious ones where she feels emotionally close to the guy she sleeps with) before she settles down, should never be called a slut. And a so should a woman who got horny and did something naughty a few times in her life. But a woman who deliberately chooses a bohemian lifestyle where she sleeps around for the sex and just the sex......is ......well......a slut in just about any culture. Men who do the same are called "womanizers" and even among the whitest of people ( Caucasians, who you probably take as your yard stick), this is not what a man wants to be called. The euphemism today is "play boy". Sounds innocuous enough. But no one takes these so called Play Boys seriously. Not at work, not in society and not in relationships. Many a times men who sleep around are seldom considered for any position of responsibility. This is because sexual decorum has been engraved as a core human value for eons and will be for the foreseeable future. Why do you think the Presidents Of the United States have mostly or always ( not sure ) been a stably married man?? Why do you think they don't go through a divorce when in office?? Its because they wanna project a certain sexual decorum to the public. Otherwise clinton would not have lied under oath!! I know a lot of presidents who did philander, but they never revealed it. That is because they fear the loss of credibility among voters. This fear stems directly out of consideration for sexual core values.

So while I recognize your feminist urge to brand women a little more tastefully for being essentially what people all over the world are derogatory about, I would still urge you to understand that sleeping around is something that should not be condoned at any cost. Have relationships, enjoy your selves sexually and indulge. But for the love of god DONT BE SLUTS!!!!!!


And for your information, I am just a concerned tamil man who tries to walk the fence.

     

Vijayan_09
Vijayan_09

@terlyndo1011  madrassi why don't you go to your own forum and talk about your own dark skinned madrassi girls. racist madrassi, the author has nothing to do with your madrassi people so stop embarrasing yourself can claim you are tamil. lol why don't you claim you are also punjabis. Trying to claim your tamil because of your unattractive and dark features?

Karthikeya Murthy
Karthikeya Murthy

It is not just men... the simple fact is, it depends on your upbringing and family values like orthodox or moderates or liberals... its not like one particular view is right and another is wrong... (applies to comments below) 


and to the author

there is a next category called hypocrites... unfortunately u ve chosen a hypocrite... hence the article... choose wisely next time...

BranT3
BranT3

The World Is what it is, people are who they are and ideologies will always exist. A simple article will never change the world or the obvious inequalities within it. The females that are constantly making a point of reminding the non-believers should spend more time chatting with the people that do believe and look past those sorts of things. Change is created through the masses by helping to guide like-minded individuals together.

The dudes that are into the "chaste" girls should not be persecuted because of the feminist ideals of anyone. We were born with preferences, raised to make decisions and will live the lives we want. Ladies, I don't disagree with the author but I do feel the anger of feminism within those words. Hang with the people that accept you, forget those who don't and maybe articles like these won't need to exist.

Niveda, whoever yo are, I think you are extremely well written but just chill - not everything is something, y'know?

sundar
sundar

There is a gross generalization  that tamil men go astray. It might be true in foreign countries but tamil men here in India , to be more specific ,Tamilnadu,  generally wait till marriage for their women. Only a few city bred Casanovas indulge in premarital sex. There are still a huge number of us who value the sanctity of marriage. I wonder what meaning marriage holds for people who already had sex before tying the knot. Seriously !! .  I speak for myself and at least 95% of my friends. And yeah we have had a lot of chances if you know what I mean !! I have been to more than 2 western countries where sex sells so cheap.  Honestly , tell me what prevented us from going to a prostitute if we go by  your argument that guys who are virgins are those who didn't get any chance. I am well withing my rights and entitled to want a girl with no previous relationship experience.Who the hell are you to say I shouldn't ?

Vijayan_09
Vijayan_09

@sundar the author is not referring to south indians like you. Tamil is a Lankan language and thus has nothing to do with you people so stop coming here posting racist comments claiming that you people are 'Tamils'. You people can speak english does that make you people English like the real english people? The author is not interested in Madrassi males like yourself so back of and talk about chennai in a south indian forum! Who the hell are you a Madrassi to come here to a Lankan website and make comments? Lankan people want nothing to do with you people.

Vijayan_09
Vijayan_09

@Opinion_Puli @Vijayan_09 @sundar what do u base that opinion madrassi? At least we have good looking women and don't need to hire north indians to act in our movies. Who said? ha ha its recorded in history that Tamil was developed during the Sangam held in Lemuria.  it is you racist madrassis who caused the genocide in lanka. U people with no identity stole the tamil language and like the idiots you are called yourself 'tamil' only to confuse the malayalees that the real Tamil speaking people of Lanka are related to you dark skinned people. The malayalees created the fake 2002 ceasefire which resulled in the genocie. U people not only do not have an identity but are robbers who cause genocide as well. No Lankan would ask for a madrassi persons help, it is ur people who caused the war thus u have to fix it. What is your identity madrassi?

Vijayan_09
Vijayan_09

@Opinion_Puli @Vijayan_09 @sundar ha ha u people call ur state 'tamil nadu' when it is not even your language. why don't u call your state england since u madrassis with useless movies can also speak english?

Opinion_Puli
Opinion_Puli

@Vijayan_09 @Opinion_Puli @sundar In our movies? Edu pa unga movies? You mean the rap videos on youtube? Madrasi caused genocide? I have a feeling you are a sinhalese or a muslim from Srilanka.. Nice nice... kalaku kalaku

Vijayan_09
Vijayan_09

@Opinion_Puli @Vijayan_09 @sundar what movies do u have? U don't even use your own language in your movies and u claim we don't have movies. Why the question mark, I've already explained how Madrassis are hated by other Indians especially the Malayalees who control the Indian government. They mistakenly thought the better looking Ceylonese are related to you people. Why am I a Sinhalese now? How come everytime  I point this out to the Madrassis they start claiming I'm a Sinhalese. Just explain why I'm a Sinhalese. What is 'nice nice' lol it is nice that u now know u have no language ha ha.

Vijayan_09
Vijayan_09

@Opinion_Puli @Vijayan_09 @sundar hide and seek? U claim I'm Sinhalese yet u provide no evidence an only make yourself look like a desperate fool because u knowI've trashed u in this debate. What are you doing here in the first place? This is a Lankan forum and we do not want Madrassis here, go comment in your own forum. I ain't gone past high school that is why I've proven u madrassis do not have your own language and that you racist people are the cause of genocide in Lanka. Now get out and don't come back here madrassi, cos Lankans do not want anything to do with you people.

aish176
aish176

@Vijayan_09

Chill out. Take a break and calm down. You started this awful argument and you are trying to cause unnecessary commotion about culture and the origins of Tamil. A few things you should clear up:

1) Who cares if a Madrassi decides to comment on this post? Why do you have to be so bothered? You're Lankan, fine. He's Madrassi, fine. Leave it.
2) Don't start picking on him by saying that the author directed this article around Lankans and not South Indians. Anyway, how do you actually know that she aimed this post at Lankans? Let me know, eh.
3) The definition of 'racism' or being 'racist' is the "belief that a particular race is superior to another". 
So I quote from you "...so stop coming here posting racist comments claiming that you people are 'Tamils'." - You're the same race as him douchebag. You're Indian, he's Indian. If you're going to use strong words, use them sensibly, where it actually makes a point. Make use of that clever brain of yours please. We are humans for a reason; use your time as a human wisely.
4) So what if I, say, comment on an American website when I am British? Americans are not going to say "Oh, dude, you can't comment on here. Go back to England and comment on a British forum.". Both countries speak English, but they don't argue about the origin of their language. SO WHAT'S YOUR PROBLEM IF A MADRASSI COMMENTS ON THIS WEBSITE HUH? 

I seriously give up on you. Literally. You need to man up and stop nit picking on everything (especially ethnicity). 
Have a good day :)

Vijayan_09
Vijayan_09

@aish176 @Vijayan_09 prove that lankans are indians you racist! Go learn the definition of racism, because those 2 south indians coming here thinking this forum is refering to them is racist! You are the racist here claiming lankans are indians, when you south indians have no language or identity of your own, but steal the tamil language and now got the nerve to claim that Lankans are indians. You jokers really have the nerve. lol just explain to me how the Lankans have so much better features than you south indians who can't even get your own actresses to act in your so called movies which do not even use your own language? south indians are definitely one of the most racist people on this planet. Your people with no identity have been trying to steal the Lankan identity by calling yourselves tamil which is equal to every other genocide that has occured like the holocaust. 

Vijayan_09
Vijayan_09

@aish176 @Vijayan_09 


This is a lankan forum so do not dare tell me not to comment on tamil origins here dravidian!

1) Madrassis are the last race to to be allowed to comment here. They are the racists who copied the Tamil language and caused the genocide in Lanka.

2) The author herself is Lankan and secondly Tamils only exist in Lanka not India!

3) You racist douchebag Lankans are not Indian. Why don't you prove that Lankans are Indians you idiot? you're a typical racist madrassi with an inferiority complex. How can Lankans be indians when lankans have nicer features and futhermore the language indians speak is lankan?

4) Compare apples with apples. The American whites are the same race as the British whilst the Madrassis are very racist and a different race from Lankans. 

aish176
aish176

@Vijayan_09 

@Vijayan_09 See this is what I hate. You're trying to prove yourself correct every single damn time. YOU need to understand the definition of racist because you're using it in the wrong way. Racism is discrimination against a different race. 

So if someone said to you, are you black, white, oriental or indian? Which one would you choose, eh? Would you said "None of them, because I am Lankan." They'll be amused and take Indian as your answer. 

I understand that Sri Lanka is whole different country in itself and it is situated right next to India but I assume you don't get along with Madrassis in particular, right? Do you get along with North Indians? 

If you think about the start of human life, we originated from Africa and then we traveled to different countries, some drifted off to China, others to South America, Great Britain and America etc. etc., and then we have people who settled in India. Maybe these people who were in India came up with Tamil (In Sri Lanka) then some people in Sri Lanka then moved to South India and developed a slightly different form of Tamil. So you have two variations of Tamil. Just like in English, "proper" English is where it was spoke in Britain, but then some people went to America/Australia/New Zealand/ and made English sound a little different but you can still understand these people. Think about it...

About not having actresses or actors and movies, yeah we use our own dialect of Tamil in the movies and tamilian actresses and actors are amazing. Your question is? 

So to round off, I can pretty much assure you that South Indians are not racist at all; we have more racism between other cultures which end up in more catastrophe. This is very much a pointless argument unless you have a worthy point to it. You made no sufficient point that is considered logical - next time, use logic in your answer please. 

Yours sincerely. 

Vijayan_09
Vijayan_09

@aish176 @Vijayan_09 racist madrassi, you have tried to evade the topic like the racist you are but my facts have stumped you. Why don't you openly say that Lankans are indians because you would be sued in court immediately. The fact that you are claiming lankans are indian without any proof is racist and will land you in court.  You idiot have you not heard of a race called Lemurian? I am a Lemurian which is far bigger piece of land than south india. in fact many of your poor people try to migrate to australia. Why don't u madrassis like to live in your own land? I can assure you many people can tell the difference between you madrassis and us Lankans and laugh when you dark people try to be associated with us. Why do you people have such an inferiority complex?

Vijayan_09
Vijayan_09

@aish176 @Vijayan_09  

so you hate when you're proved wrong, go change your attitude then or just don't make ignorant comments. Using it in a different way? U clearly don't understand its meaning because racism is one race taking the identity of another race and claiming it as their own!


Racist south indian, why don't show that Lankans are indians rather than trying to prove your point based on the false opinions of others. Lol you can see youtube comments where white people have laughed at your racist people saying ugg these ugly women when you madrassis put up racist videos of 'hot tamil women' because the White Canadians are used to seeing good looking Lankan women. Actually you retard answer this question. Is the professor the student of the pupil or the pupil the student of the professor? The answer is obviously the pupil is the student of the professor so in the same way you indians speak a lankan language so how can lankans be indians. Futhermore racist madrassi, Lankans are the same race as the australian aboriginals and have nothing to do with your unwanted featureless people who are hated everywhere you go whether it be india or malaysia.


There is a good video on youtube about origins of Lankans you should watch it because you are a typical racist madrassi with an inferority complex. Who are your tamilian actresses? so now you people are a language and why don't you call yourselves english?? why don't you answer my previous statements instead of evading them like the idiot you are? So my points that you madrassis are racist, that you people have no language is not logical? Yes you are a waste of time. the fact u keep trying to claim lankans are indians just proves you are a racist just like 99% of madrassis.


aish176
aish176

@Vijayan_09

One of your new year's resolution should be to calm down and get along with everybody.


DEFINITION


Oh, I'm sorry but the dictionary doesn't state the racism is when one race takes the identity of another... nope, this is non existent.. instead it says that racism is "the belief that races have distinctive cultural characteristics determined by hereditary factors and that this endows some races with an intrinsic superiority over others". Brilliant, glad that I've educated you correctly :) 


COLOUR


People are different colours because of how genes and hereditary works. Some colours are more dominant than others. Let me explain to you how genetics works. So basically, different pigments have different strengths of "power" in terms of colour. E.g - brown is far more dominant than white. However, the probability of two genes coming together from both mother and father that are the same colour can vary. You can't always say that there is a 100% chance that if one parent is brown and the other parent is a deep brown colour, their children will be of deep brown colour (most likely but cannot always be certain) because say if the parent who has a deep brown complexion is carrying a gene that codes for white and by chance, the white colour gene mixed with the gene for brown comes into effect.. then the children will be pale brown. So to generalise and say that all of Madrassis are "dark" is an understatement. I'm not dark at all, in fact I'm tan or so-called "olive" coloured. 


BEAUTY


Nobody in this world is ugly. Don't you EVER say that someone or some people are ugly. "What goes round, comes back around". Nobody is born ugly; we're all blessed with beauty which God has given us. He's made us beautiful for a reason. 

However, people's complexions change due to lifestyle and how they take care of themselves. So to say that Madrassis are ugly, is basically disrespecting God's own creation. You should think before you speak.


CULTURE


I get along fine with any culture and I'm used to being surrounded by various people from all over the world. But you seem to have a problem with mixing with other people, I doubt you like any Madrassi... Change how you look at other people. But first change how you look at yourself before judging others. That always helps :) 

We obviously speak a different dialect of Tamil. There are many different types of dialect in Tamil. Please don't think that Tamil is a Lankan language and therefore anybody else who speaks our language is stealing it... NO. JUST NO. 


ACTORS AND ACTRESSES


Go look up "Tamil actors" and there will be a Wikipedia page listing the numerous actors and actresses there have ever been. Don't underestimate the number of talented Tamilians there are in this world.


CONCLUSION


"racist like 99% of Madrassis" - Wow, I am really? Like please, "wake up and smell the grass" as they say. Why do you generalise so much, eh? I guess you'll never meet Madrassis, shame because we are cool, you just don't see us that way. If you like to be different so be it, no one is stopping you. 

Vijayan_09
Vijayan_09

@aish176 @Vijayan_09  Firstly madrassi, why do you even come to this forum? Go to your own forum pathetic racist. Secondly you claiming that 'I would like to be different' just shows how racist you madrassis are. The fact is I am different. Lankan people are cleaner, have our own language and identity, smarter and have nicer features compared to you racist people. Lankan people are also not theives who copy other people's language and are not racist to tell other races who they are. Enough said.  I've thrashed all the madrassis that have come here so far and you want to start, just shows how madrassis like you never learn. You educating me? so tell me how are lankans the same as you racist people? Also you speaking a dialect does not make it your language.


How are you a 'tamilian'. Again shows that you are racist, copying a lankan language and having the gall to use the name of a lankan language to identify yourself as you people HAVE NO identity. Your wasteful explanation about skin colour again shows you people have no arguments. Lankans are fairer and madrassis are darker as simple as that. 


Yes God created lankans as more attractive, smarter and with a language, so suck on that. That is your negative karma. Instead of being humble most of you madrassis are very arrogant.


Now get out of this forum and I dare you to speak like this in a chinese or white forum, they will throw racist trash like you out. Lankans, Maldivians and Australian Aboriginals are one people and we will not let you racist rejected south indians come and destroy us.


Tell me how Tamil is not a lankan language? lol why don't u tell the english that u madrassis speak indian english?


BTW, unlike you I can respect other races. I don't claim a white person is lankan or a chinese person as lankan whilst you claim that lankans are madrassis. So first get out of this forum, show respect to lankan people before preaching. I have shown are you are racist in many ways. If you are not racist as you claim, disprove what I have said and go to your own forum instead of squatting here like you people seem to do on the streets of madras.

epaul
epaul

@Vijayan_09 your comments are funny :) especially the ones where you call others racists by throwing stones on other races.. lol

aish176
aish176

@Vijayan_09 Wow, well you're never going to understand anybody else's opinion which is fine by me but the fact that you're being a douchebag is not good at all.
The mean stuff you've said will get you back years to come in some other shape or form, so you've been warned. 


Look man, clean and simple, God gave us all an equal amount of intelligence, beauty, height etc. So nope, He didn't make you any more smarter or more beautiful than anyone else on this planet. Sorry to crush your claim. 


Treat everybody nicely and you'll get treated nicely back or you get a taste of your own medicine.


terlyndo1011
terlyndo1011

@Vijayan_09 @sundar
can you really be more deluded?? I do sympathize with your cause, but honestly, that is all we Indian Tamils can do my friend. Your claims that you are the real tamils will never change the facts. I do understand the animosity between the tamils across the sea. But your comment is born more out of utter hatred. So carry on and hate us. The fact is, we, The Indian Tamils live in the most peaceful place in the world. You wanna call us cowards?? Yes we are. You think you are brave and fight for your freedom?? Yes, you are and you do. So go ahead and hate us. We dont and will never hate you. You will always be TAMIL BROTHERS to us and we will wish well and pray for you. Unfortunately, that is all we can do for you.

Vijayan_09
Vijayan_09

@epaul @Vijayan_09  learn to read, because I don't throw stones on other races. Pointing out the facts to racists who have no right to be here is not racist.

Vijayan_09
Vijayan_09

@aish176 @Vijayan_09  firstly racist madrassi it is not my problem to listen to your rubbish on a lankan forum. Go and find a madrassi forum and talk your nonsense. You can't even answer any of my rebuttals yet you still come here trying to have the last word and again showing your madrassi racism. You got burned. I've been warned? ha ha ha your racism was thumped by the truth and if you can't accept you people have no language and are not wanted by north indians that is not my problem. Lol you beggars than come to lankan people and try to deceive us to destroy us. We all know that Lankans are far better looking than you dark skinned people so don't ever dare try and say you are the same us! I wasn't talking specifically about myself I'm talking of lankan people having nothing to do with you dark skinned madrassis and yes we are better looking.

Vijayan_09
Vijayan_09

@terlyndo1011 @Vijayan_09 @sundar  can you be more deluded and racist to claim that you dark skinned unwanted madrassis are related to lankans? How are you an Indian tamil? Why don't you claim you're an indian punjabi, which would make even more sense. If you sympathize with my cause you would stop being racist and leave this forum. My comments are based on the truth and hatred for you madrassi racists who have stolen the tamil language and have the nerve to to claim we are related to you and we copied our own language.  YOU people can never be brothers to us, why don't you claim you are brothers to the chinese and whites you dark skinned average looking madrassi? You people are not peaceful but racist and backstabbers. Don't you remember all the fish you've stolen from Lankan waters? Now bugger of madrassi.

Avistin
Avistin

@Vijayan_09 @epaul  Who are you to say who should be here? This is not YOUR site or even your post. Who said only people belonging to the same community as the site admin or authors should visit that site? Do you even understand the concept of internet? I think not.

Avistin
Avistin

@Vijayan_09 @aish176   You say Tamil is a Lankan language? Show us the proof. 


"you beggars" - I see you are running out of random, basesless cuss words so you're just throwing around anything that comes to mind. Pathetic.


You imply that dark skinned people are not beautiful and yet you claim you are not a racist? What a joke.

Vijayan_09
Vijayan_09

@SivaVj @Vijayan_09 @aish176  the proof?? I have already given the proof, why don't you read it first, or can't you read??? Random words?? You clearly do not understand english because a person who speaks someone else's language is a beggar. Where did I say dark skinned people are not beautiful? Why don't you stop putting words into my mouth because I stated madrassi people are not good looking and also dark skinned. How can I be racist when I am fighting the racist you idiot? Stating that a factual response to a racist madrassi who claims that lankans are related to her unattractive bunch by pointing out the difference is not racist. Go and learn english before coming, because the only reason you comment here is because you have no other life and crave attention. 

aish176
aish176

@SivaVj Hey never did I say that Tamil was a Lankan language; you got the wrong end of the stick.
I'm showing proof but no one understands it at all which is sad really


What you said about everything else in the comment is so true though

aish176
aish176

@Vijayan_09 

I have given you all the bloody proof you need. You have problem analysing the information that I provide you. You're the one that is not giving any scientific evidence. You're the one that's just blurting out claims.  BACK YOUR CLAIMS UP WITH ACTUAL EVIDENCE. 

(I read everything you give me, but it's sad that you don't read anything of mine really. 

I can read, write and speak English perfectly fine; you obviously don't like it when I start to talk scientifically in English).


I've given you the evolutionary explanation - you didn't understand that. I've given you the biological explanation - you didn't understand that either. 

So now I will give you the psychological explanation to aggression because you'll understand that really well.


"The male sex hormone testosterone is thought to influence the behaviour of aggression from young adulthood onwards and it is due to the actions into the brain area that are involved in controlling aggression. 


Research to support this comes from Dabbs et al who measured salivary testosterone in violent and non-violent criminals. Those people with high levels of testosterone has a history of violent crimes whereas those with the low levels has committed the non-violent crimes. 


This study has a major limitation; the use of using criminals in the experiment means that Dabb's experiment lacks ecological validity because we cannot generalise the findings of the research to the wider population.


Aggression can also overlap with dominance. Mazur said that we should distinguish between aggression and dominance. Many individuals act aggressively when they want to harm others, whereas they act dominantly if their wish is to achieve something or if they want to gain status over another person. In humans, the hormone testosterone, when influenced on testosterone on dominance is likely to be expressed in more varied and subtle ways, for example, through status-striving behaviour"


This is called evidence. You give a statement: "male sex hormone testosterone ..... behaviour of aggression" and then you give some evidence "Mazur" and "Dabbs et al". Evidence does not need to be studies, they just need some explanation to back up your point.

I could go on and on but I don't want to bore you, not that you'll take this into consideration anyway.


You need to grow up and stop nit picking on everything without giving any proper empirical evidence because it's making me want to add some brain cells into your brain because I think you've lost quite a lot whilst arguing with other people. 

Vijayan_09
Vijayan_09

@aish176 @Vijayan_09  why do you still come back here racist south indian. Why don't you go and join your own community instead of bothering lankans, or wait you have just an inferiority complex you have to keep coming back how sad. Why don't you respond to the points I've made instead of trying to evade it and what about the video that I put up, need more proof. You couldn't even answer how you madrassis are average looking at best and dark skinned and had a cry about it yet no answer. Why are your people rejected by north indians. Just explain how your skin is dark and of poorer quality to Lankans?

Vijayan_09
Vijayan_09

@aish176 @Vijayan_09  racist madrassi, don't hide here, openly debate me and your nonsense will humiliate you. Why don't you join a chinese forum. ha ha they will throw you out in a second. Just explain how you people who are disliked by north indians are related to lankans. Just explain that.

sundar_new
sundar_new

@Vijayan_09 @sundar Its been nearly  a year. If the author had explicitly mentioned that the article was meant for Srilankan Tamils based in Canada,  honestly I wouldn't have commented here. 


I don't want to argue with you about the other stuff you have written. I pity you . 

Opinion_Puli
Opinion_Puli

@Vijayan_09 @sundar  Serupala adi! Your women will open their leg for everyone and call it tamil culture and everyone has to be quiet.   Who said Tamil is a lankan language? Next time shout genocide and ask for T.N help! Baadu!

Vijayan_09
Vijayan_09

@sundar_new @Vijayan_09 @sundar why don't u actually prove that you so called madrassis exist and that Tamil is an Indian language rather continuing to come here and make comments when you people are not welcome here?

Vijayan_09
Vijayan_09

@sundar racist madrassi, this article is about Tamil people not about a people from the illegally named state in India called 'tamil nadu'. Why don't you post in your own indian forum, even though the north indians reject you there as well. Go and speak your own language as well.

Vithua4
Vithua4

@sundar I'm born in France (Eelam Tamil) and no one in my familly had pre marital sex. The only woman I will have sex with is the future mother of my children and no one else.


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