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Dear Straight Up! Is He Messaging Me Just As A Friend?

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Dear Straight Up,

A guy recently took me on several dates, and I thought it was going somewhere, but it ended up with him saying ” let’s just be friends.” Now, he’s messaging me again,  but I honestly do not want to lead him on, I’ve lost interest. What can I do?

-Lost

 

Dear Lost,

Is he messaging you with the mindset that you and him are just friends or is he hoping to still maintain some interest on your side? If you actually meant to be friends with him then you need to maybe consider that he actually meant what he said and thus is treating you like a friend. If you think that maybe he wants to rekindle interest and you are no longer interested in pursuing it, then you will have to be straight up with him and let him know. Either ways the ball is in your court whether you want to continue having anything with this guy – whether it be friendship or something more.

-Straight Up

 

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 Dear Straight Up,

There is a guy I met through a professional way, I interviewed him and found out that he is a very interesting person. I’ve tried to carry a conversation through text, he responds here and there, but I don’t know what to think of it. I want to see where this can go, but how do I engage him in a conversation and even a meet up to get to know each other better?

-Confused

 

Dear Confused,

If you have tried on your part and he is not responding then he’s most likely not interested. If you just want to clear any doubts then just ask him if he would be interested in meeting you. By being upfront you avoid any confusing and/ or misunderstanding and most importantly you won’t waste your time wondering whether he is interested in you or not. If you don’t feel comfortable doing that, then take a step back. Don’t message him and see if he makes an effort to contact you. If he does then great, you can go from there, if not then the next best thing for you to do is move on. Either ways try not to dwell on it too much. Giving so much of yourself just to get a response back is not worth it, whether he be an interesting person or not. You are just as interesting as he is, and if he doesn’t want to take the time to see that then let him go, and someone else will come along who will.

-Straight Up

 

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